Domestic Violence

First of all – If you are in immediate danger call 000 or the WA Police on 13 14 44.

You may open your television, and the only news you seem to notice are those about domestic violence. Upon hearing and seeing this on your television screen, you realize that domestic violence can happen to anyone regardless of where they’re living and what their social status is. Domestic violence doesn’t choose as to who will be their next victim – it can happen to anyone. It can involve relatively young or new couples, as well as those that have been together for decades. It can impact on both opposite sex, or same-sex couples.

This YouTube clip of the singer Archie Roach singing his song “Walking into Doors” is what it is all about.

And since you’re now aware of how domestic violence is not as hidden as it was in years past, you may have become interested in knowing more about it. After all, you might be starting to think you could be a victim yourself, or a perpetrator and you don’t even know it.

What are the types of domestic violence?

Contrary to popular belief, there are different types of domestic violence. Broadly speaking this has been described as “…a pattern of actions used to intentionally control or dominate an intimate partner…” [Source: Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs (DAIP) ]

It has also been described as “Intimate Partner violence” and has been defined by the (U.S.) Centers for Disease Control and Prevention as “…physical violence, sexual violence, stalking and psychological aggression (including coercive acts) by a current or former intimate partner.

You might be used to expecting to see victims with bruises but this is not the only type of domestic violence. A common way of identifying Domestic Violence is via use of the Duluth Model and their “Power and Control Wheel”. Domestic violence can happen through:

  1. Physical abuse: This involves using force against the victim causing injuries. And it doesn’t have to be grave before it can be considered as domestic violence. If an abuser slaps you a few times and this doesn’t require you to go to the hospital, the entire occurrence can still be considered as domestic violence.
  2. Emotional abuse: Emotional abuse happens when the abuser diminishes the victim’s self-worth by persistent insults, humiliation, and even criticism. This is most common among people involved in relationships. If your partner has been insulting you for the things you can’t do and humiliates you in front of a crowd or even just a few other people, you might be a victim of emotional abuse. And when these things continue to happen because you feel (or are told you) let the abuser do so, you’d end up feeling too little about yourself. Without self-esteem, you could be hindered from doing a lot of things.
  3. Sexual abuse: Someone can become a victim of sexual abuse when the abuser sexually assaulted, raped and harassed them. When someone you know has forced their way to make sexual contact with you, you might be a victim of sexual abuse. But the premise of sexual abuse isn’t only limited to that. You can also be considered as sexually abused when you’re coerced into not using any contraception or having an abortion.

The Duluth Power and Control Wheel also looks at; Economic Abuse (e.g. controlling family finances); Using Isolation (e.g. controlling who can or can’t be seen); Using Children (e.g. to relay messages); Using “Male Privilege” (e.g. acting like the “master of the castle”) and; Minimizing, Denying and Blaming. (e.g. denying responsibility for abusive behavior, or how bad it was).

There are a lot of types of domestic abuse, and you should take the time to know all of these. And if you think you’ve been a victim of any kind of domestic violence, you should seek professional help right away. You shouldn’t wait for things to worsen.

What are the signs of domestic violence?

There are a lot of signs of domestic violence which can range from physical to psychological. If you fear you’re a victim of domestic violence, you should look out for these common signs:

  1. You or your partner have a drug and or alcohol problem;
  2. You (as the victim,) have been isolated from friends and other family members;
  3. You have been on the “receiving end” of physical abuse from your partner, including punching, choking or being thrown down;

How can we help you?

Being on the “receiving end” of domestic violence and trying to live a healthy life after what happened is something that can be challenging to do.

If you are currently in a situation that you believe might be considered Domestic Violence, talking with a professional experienced in dealing with both perpetrators and those who have been the recipients of Domestic Violence can be useful. It can also be helpful to get a “Second opinion” about what you are experiencing.

In the longer term, assistance could include developing a “Safety Plan” for the victim, for when you feel you need to “get out” for both your own (and your children’s) safety and emotional wellbeing. (e.g. Identifying where you would go, like to a friend’s place, or a refuge, knowing what documents to take with you and having them all together in one place, having Police numbers programmed into your phone.)

If you are the Perpetrator, this could mean looking at your attitudes, beliefs and behavior, as well as learning new ways to respond to situations you don’t like.

Although this page has mainly been about those on the receiving end of Domestic Violence, we can work with either victims or perpetrators (but not both from the same couple).

This is where Life Resolutions Huntingdale can help you. We can help you move on from domestic violence. We understand the ill-effects of domestic violence to your life, and we’re more than equipped to help you change your life for the better.

Where is Our Domestic Violence Service Located?

We are conveniently located 7 Bronzewing Street, Huntingdale 6110.

To find out how we can help call today on 1300668256